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The myth of skinny-shaming

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As Nicki Minaj’s highest charting single ever, “Anaconda” has elicited a lot of controversy since its release. While the most prominent discussion seems to center around its salacious music video, which has garnered over 100 million views on YouTube—where comments oscillate between denouncing the video as “pornographic” or “disgusting” and heralding it as a sex-positive black-feminist masterpiece—what I find to be the most interesting argument against “Anaconda” is the accusation that Minaj is promoting an unhealthy body image. Indeed, opponents of the song have criticized its lyrics for “skinny-shaming,” contending that Minaj’s call to “fuck the skinny bitches” marginalizes thin women in the same way that larger women are marginalized. Here’s the fault with that argument: while instances of “skinny-shaming” may seem like as much of a problem as fat-shaming—and may very well be just as hurtful—the two phenomena are neither comparable nor equal, because the fact of the matter is that we live in a society that systematically and structurally privileges those who are thin and marginalizes those who are not.

It wasn’t until last weekend that I first heard the term “skinny-shaming.” I was hanging out in a friend’s common room listening to music when “Anaconda” began playing. About 3 minutes into the song, there’s a section where Nicki raps, “Where my fat ass big bitches in the club?/Fuck the skinny bitches/Fuck the skinny bitches in the club/I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the mother fucking club, fuck you if you skinny bitches.”

When I mentioned afterwards that I respected Nicki for saying that, to my surprise, my friend replied, “What? But like, skinny-shaming’s also a thing, which is just as shitty.”

“Skinny-shaming,” as I later learned, is the term that’s been coined to describe the act of degrading or insulting someone for being thin. It’s often mentioned in the broader context of body-shaming and women’s body image and is typically offered as a type of other-side-of-the-same-coin alternative to fat-shaming. Often, it’s heralded as more important than fat-shaming, because fat-shaming gets more attention in the media and general discourse. And with the growing discussion surrounding beauty standards, the media, and “real women,” this notion of skinny-shaming is one that’s received a lot of attention lately.

The core of the skinny-shaming argument can be best be summed up by the top comment on Meghan Trainor’s YouTube video for “All About That Bass”—another song that’s proven controversial recently for Trainor’s claim that she’s “bringing booty back” and planning to “tell them skinny bitches that.” The comment reads:

“What happened to everyone is beautiful?! Calling someone a skinny bitch is the same as calling someone a fat bitch. I bet if someone made a song calling someone a fat bitch everyone would hate that person. We’re all beautiful, no matter what size and we need to stop calling each other names or saying things like ‘only curvy girls are real women’ or ‘that girl would be pretty if she wasn’t fat.’ We are all BEAUTIFUL!!”

The basic premise of this argument, my friend’s argument, and all other arguments against “skinny-shaming” is this: skinny-shaming, like fat-shaming, is a form of body-shaming, so it is just as hurtful, dangerous, and problematic. Therefore, skinny-shaming should be discussed, analyzed, and combatted just as seriously as fat-shaming. Basically, “skinny-shaming’s a thing, and it’s just as shitty.”

But not all body-shaming is created equal. Skinny-shaming is absolutely not comparable to fat-shaming, nor should the two issues be weighted equally. And by pairing Trainor’s or Minaj’s or any other person’s individual criticism of “skinny bitches” with the systemic and cultural condemnation of all those who are not “skinny bitches” is to completely ignore the hierarchy of power associated with body-type and weight in modern American culture.

Being skinny is a form of privilege, in the same way that being white, wealthy, heterosexual, cisgendered, or able-bodied is a form of privilege. There are a series of societal benefits and advantages that come with being skinny, and these benefits serve to marginalize those who do not fit into a very narrowly defined notion of the acceptable female body type. These privileges include, but are not limited to:

The ability to find clothing in your size at the vast majority of retailers;

The assumption that your body type is at the very least “normal,” and most often sexually desirable;

The assumption that those who do find you sexually desirable are also normal, and not merely satisfying a fetish;

The assumption that you are healthy and physically fit;

The lack of character judgments (e.g. lazy, greedy, undisciplined) placed upon you for your body type.

These are all privileges enjoyed by those who are skinny, and these privileges are important to recognize when analyzing what exactly body-shaming means, who it affects, and how it affects them. Fat-shaming represents a larger social system of oppression. Skinny-shaming is an individual insult or criticism against those who are already in a position of power. Fat-shaming is nearly constant, ubiquitous, and often unacknowledged. Skinny-shaming happens sometimes. Yes, fat-shaming and skinny-shaming are both forms of body-shaming. No, they are not equal.

What differentiates individual instances of prejudice from large-scale discrimination is the system of power inherent in the latter. In “Developing a New Perspective on Race,” Pat Bidol defined racism as “Power + Prejudice”—I think this is true for all “-isms.” What transforms individual instances of prejudice into larger systems of discrimination is the existence of a power disparity. To be discriminated against is to be constantly placed in a vulnerable position in society—it is to be told, explicitly and tacitly, that you are unworthy and thus deserve less.

This is why even using the term “skinny-shaming” is dangerous; drawing the parallel between a system of oppression and individual grievances serves to conceal the ways in which body-size privileges or marginalizes certain groups. In the same way that affirmative action does not constitute reverse racism, or a concerted effort to recruit women in the workplace does not constitute reverse sexism, an angry comment towards skinny people does not constitute reverse fat-shaming (i.e. skinny-shaming). Being in a position of power means that while you may encounter individual instances of prejudice, you will never be subjected to a system of prejudice. Thus being told “fuck you” by Nicki Minaj is not “skinny-shaming,” but rather an instance of skinny-prejudice.

To be clear, by no means am I approving of or endorsing skinny-prejudice; insulting someone for their body-type—regardless of privileged status—is unproductive and hurtful. What I am saying is that comments like “fuck you if you skinny, bitch” have a context in which they must be considered. In a world in which a national retailer (ahem, Brandy Melville) labels size small clothing “one size fits most,” the dieting industry brings in $20 billion in revenue per year, the media routinely and publicly criticize celebrities for weight gain and herald Jennifer Lawrence as a “curvy woman,” non-skinny women are given very few avenues for attacking and criticizing the culture of oppression to which they are subjected. Add to that the history of patriarchy associated with female weight management, and it becomes clear that insults against those who are skinny are not an attack, but rather a response to a much broader issue.

So when Nicki Minaj says “fuck the skinny bitches” she’s not personally attacking women who receive skinny privilege, but rather combatting the system that gives it to them. She’s publicly recognizing the power dynamic that surrounds the female body, and she’s attempting to disrupt the dominant narrative that allows this dynamic to exist.

Yes, I understand “fuck the skinny bitches” might hurt your feelings, but no, this one instance of skinny-prejudice is not comparable to the pervasive culture of fat-shaming we live in. And by ignoring the fact that there is a difference, we deny the fact that this system of privilege and oppression continues to exist.

 

Illustration by Julia Kittle-Kamp

  • Raven

    Here’s the thing. I can’t find clothes that fit me well in most stores. If I want to find something that is long enough, I have to shop in the Junior/Ladies section, but then everything drowns me. If I don’t want it to drown me, I shop in the little girl’s section, but then it’s too short. Yes, I could buy clothes and then take the time to take them in myself and make them fit, but why should I have to? Because I’m skinny, aren’t I supposed to have the “privilege” of finding clothes in my size, according to you? You talk about discrimination and shaming against groups of people who have more approval in society as if it should be applauded.

    Here’s a little clue about how to be a good person: Don’t shame anyone.

    Just because a person is rich, white, skinny, male, straight, or any other quality that may make you think that they have an easier life than you doesn’t give you ANY right to talk about them as if they don’t have feelings. “Fuck the skinny bitches” is not something to be celebrated. Ever. Sure, maybe she is railing at the system, but she is certainly not doing it in the right way. If you want bigger bodies to be celebrated, focus on bringing them up, not bringing others down.

    Because all of this hurts. “Fuck the skinny bitches,” “silicone barbie doll,” “only dogs want bones,” etc, all of that hurts people like me just as much as the fat, lazy, unhealthy stereotype hurts larger people. And it’s just as wrong. And to justify it with “But skinny people can find clothes in their size in stores, so they have skinny privilege” is laughable. Yeah sure, magazines idealize skinnier frames, but guess what? People still assume that I have some sort of eating disorder because I’m skinny. So most actresses tend to keep their fat down, but guess what? The internet still tells me that I’m an arrogant prick simply because I’m skinny.

    Get over yourself and step off your high horse for a minute. It is not fat-shaming that needs to be addressed by the body positive movement; it is body shaming in general. Skinny shaming is not okay. Racism against whites is not okay. Hating someone just because they are rich is not okay.

    Discrimination based on race, class, gender, sexuality, or size is not okay. Not even to bring down a corrupt system. You want to do something positive? Be positive.

  • Jane

    As a teenage girl who is under 5’2 and weighs barely 100 pounds I am extremely self conscious about my size. I am always asked if I want the kids menu. I am old enough to drive a car but still buy my clothes in the kids department. When ever people see how much I eat (alot) they act suprised. Teachers have asked for years if I ate that day. A friend of mine is tiny about 4’8 and 80 pounds (she’s 16)and thats because of a deficency in growth hormones. The fact is that there is no way of knowing about why someone is a certain size and attacking them or saying they are privileged is an assumption that is often untrue. Please take into account that us SKINNY BITCHES cry in front of mirrors and dislike how we look.

  • Bailey

    Go to any second hand store or low end clothing store, and tell me how many pants you find from size 4 down. Not all thin girls want to pay mall prices. $50 for jeans is unreasonable. Also, how many people comment on your weight per day? It’s like a broken record of mostly negative thin comments. Oh, I don’t follow celebs or models, because fashion is too shallow for me. I don’t get validation from airbrushed images of strangers. If I have enough respect to not even feel tempted to comment on a large woman’s body, I think I deserve the same respect. I have no idea if fat shaming or thin shaming are the same, because I’ve never walked in their shoes. But does it really matter who has it worse? If you ask me, minorities have it worse. Gay people have it worse. Nobody is in fear of being killed for being thin or fat. The media has polarized women with different figures, because if we band together, magazine images would no longer hurt us into buying unnecessary products. All body shaming is bad. Get off your high horse, and wake up.

  • Elizabeth Blake

    I find this very hard to read. As a naturally “skinny bitch” I have never been able to put weight on like a normal person. I even had to be on medication to help me gain weight as a child. I have been called things like anorexic, twigs for bones, and other very hurtful things. People don’t realize that just like a person who is made fun of for being heavier, skinny people will try and do things to make them gain weight. I tried. It didn’t work. But I stopped that because it wasn’t healthy. I had to change the way I looked at myself and turn it into a positive light, because everyone around me was telling me my weight was a negative thing. I am a very active girl. I do mma and bjj. And I am an ex gymnast. Recently my whole family went organic. We don’t eat processed foods. I am healthy and I am tired of hearing that “real women have curves”. Because no. Real women have vaginas. That’s all you need to physically be a girl. I’m also tired of hearing “real men go for curves, only dogs go for bones” because if we reverse that and say “real men go for thin girls, only dogs go for meat” people would be very upset. Just as we are upset. We can’t help our weight. Don’t tell me it’s not as important. Because it is.

  • guest

    Maybe this article is thinking of thin/in shape women and not actually skinny girls? Being skinny is not ideal, being thin and in good shape is. Being a skinny, bony girl my whole life I have been harassed everywhere. In school, at work, walking down the street people say things to me like “ew, go eat a cheeseburger, go eat a donut, you have no ass” and these are mostly men saying these things. I read comments under pictures of skinny girls “ew who would want to sleep with a bag of bones? no man likes that” It’s like people think the media is portraying skinny as ideal so it gives them the right to say anything negative about the person they want. I have gone through many unhealthy options to gain weight including weight-gaining shakes and pills. Body-shaming is wrong. Let’s stop arguing about which is worse fat-shaming or skinny-shaming. And please don’t tell me there is such a thing as skinny privilege. My bony ass has not helped me get anything in life.

  • Charlotte Alyce Jane Markwick

    Well said!!! You took everything I was feeling and turned it into words!!!

    And honestly, people get all hung up on the words and start getting all “what are we teaching children, won’t somebody think of the children!” -come on, can’t we just enjoy brilliant, catchy music?

  • Angela Hargis

    I absolutely hate all of these articles that im seeing recently taking about how it’s not at all the same. I call bullshit. Since I was a child I’ve been extremely thin and have never had any luck with trying to gain weight. I’ve discussed it with my doctor and they said though I’m technically underweight my body itself is perfectly healthy. Yet growing up and even currently just because I’m thin I get asked if I have an eating disorder and now with the body equality instead of people actually trying to be equals we get the people that claim that I’m not a “real” women because I don’t have curves. And who says that just because you’re thin you can get whatever clothes you want? I have to shop around so much because my breasts or ass aren’t big enough. I find it absolutely disgusting that to make one type of body type feel better the majority of people feel the need to bash any types that are different. I have friends that are all different body types. We are who we are not because of how fat or skinny we are but because of our personalities and I just wish that people would actually realize that.

  • Sarah Bickford

    Have we completely forgotten about eating disorders?? If you were to see an exessively skinny person then there is a rather likely chance that there is some kind of eating disorder attatched. There are around 30 million Americans with an eating disorder where they cannot help being skinny. I agree that skinny shaming doesn’t have the history that fat shaming does but you have to understand that SKINNY SHAMING STIGMATIZES MENTAL ILLNESSES!! By saying ‘fuck the skinny bitches’ you are saying ‘fuck you for being thin’ to everyone with an eating disorder. I’m not saying all skinny people are annorexic/bulimic.. But MOST annorexics/bulimics are skinny.

  • Liz

    You know what being naturally TOO SKINNY is not a privilege. The fact you even think this is a legitimate argument blows my mind. I have suffered with this my whole life and to think that because we are skinny we aren’t also receiving backhanded comments such as “you could use a cheeseburger” is absolutely outlandish. Never in my 5’7″ 100lb life have I EVER fit into a piece of clothing that said “one size fits all”! WHAT EXACTLY IS THIS “SKINNY PRIVILEGE” YOU KEEP BRINGING UP??? ITS NEAR IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND CLOTHES THAT FIT, IMPOSSIBLE TO GAIN WEIGHT, PEOPLE CONSTANTLY CALLING ME A SKELETON OR JOKING THAT I HAVE AN EATING DISORDER. This article is mean spirited and although you’re entitled to your opinion, you should consider who you’re writing about

  • Rachel

    honestly just calm down smoke a jouint and love yourself who cares what other people think and also anyone that says anything bad about your body just give them a hug and say “ur gonna grow up one day and realize your a shitty person, until then stay away from me bitch cus i dont want ur negative vibes.” amen

  • Taylor

    I would like to point out that there are women physically harming their bodies trying to obtain the heavier and curvier body that is being preached in these songs. That should be noted. Skinny shaming has not been an issue because people have been practically ignoring it’s negative effects. Growing every day is the number of girls and women undergoing possibly dangerous procedures to give them bigger butts, breasts, lips and more. And while thin privilege clearly exists in our society, that does not mean that skinny shaming is not equal to fat shaming. When you consider the numbers of women who go through depression and other mental breakdowns due to being called “skinny bitch”,”worthless”,”anorexic,” and so much more… how can you say it’s not equal to fat shaming? Just because they can buy a t shirt that fits them easier?

  • Tori Schuler

    I completely disagree with you. You are not helping anything because you explicitly state that it is not as big of a deal to skinny-Shane as it is to fat-shame. You may not mean that, but it is what you said.

    You also say that it isn’t a constant problem. I disagree. I cannot count the number of times complete strangers have stopped me in a public place and asked if I ever eat, if I’m okay, if I need help. All because of my weight. The worse part is that they don’t see anything wrong with that. It’s okay for them to ‘express concern’ like that, to my face. They go out of their way to do it. That makes me feel worse about my figure than most people could imagine. Being singled out by a stranger just to tell me that there’s something wrong with me.

    “You’re so skinny” is not a compliment. It’s also usually followed by “do you ever eat?” That is not what I want to hear. The compliment form is “you have a nice figure,” and it applies to people of all sizes. Start using it.

    In short, I live with the constant implication that I’m sick because I’m thin, people constantly judging me (not just occasionally, like so many people think). “Careful, you might blow away!” How does that sound like an okay thing to say to a stranger? A friend, sure, if you have that understanding, but never say these things to strangers.

  • Jade Santiago

    In my opinion, this for the most part is bullshit. I’m skinny and I suffer with simular issues a fat person would struggle with since childhood. As ironic as it may sound to someone who clearly hasn’t clearly looked at it from another person’s perspective. Just because the media portrays skinny as good, doesn’t make them privilege or mean people want them. I have trouble finding clothes that fit right because I’m too skinny. I have struggled with a binge eating disorder for most of my life from useless effort to gain weight. I’ve been made fun of and bullied throughout school and life because I “look anorexic”. I’ve struggled with self harm because of the ridicule and solitude from a lack of friends or people just writing me off because I have “nothing to complain about”. I’ve been rejected and told I look “creepy” or “unheathy” or too skinny and that I should eat more. I feel highly offended when people dismiss skinny-shaming as unequal to fat-shaming. Its one sided and not fair to those who struggle with weight gain. If a fat person wants to lose weight it just takes eating right and exercise (which mind you is a normal part of a healthy life style). But gaining weight when you have an uncontrollable fast metabolism is nearly impossible. So maybe you should think again about your petty distaste towards skinny shaming and realize that it truly is just as hurtful and has the same impact.

  • Elise Brady

    I think what everyone needs to remember is that the body type these women are promoting is not fat, it is curvy. They are promoting a round butt and big boobs – the “ideal” body. Don’t fool yourselves into thinking these celebrities are defending fat or over weight women. They are idealising and promoting the body type that women have been distracted into thinking they have to have through decades of propaganda. The image being promoted here is not a healthy one – the body type, in its own right is perfectly beautiful and healthy, but the image being promoted is more than the body type.

  • http://totallyhooked.net/ Frank Howard

    “In this one instance” – give me a break. Thin shaming is very real, and very cruel.

  • not including my name

    Thin shaming isn’t real?

    Please explain to me why thin women are accused of setting unrealistic and unhealthy standards of beauty but those very same people tell us it’s possible to have health at every side and to stop fat shaming?

    This isn’t a pro-health movement, if it was you’d attack obesity. This is THIN SHAMING.

  • andyrolo

    Well, I guess getting into Yale is easier than I thought.

  • LelaniFuchs

    I’m going to assume the author is a land whale and is trying to justify it being okay to shame the thinner bodies because it makes her feel better about herself.
    I too, used to be a land whale, but I sought to lose weight, to get healthy and now I am a lovely size 8, and people like you try so hard to make me feel bad about it. Ya know what? I don’t. I look fucking awesome now. In fact, whenever someone says things like “skinny bitches” or that I need a cheeseburger (this is actually fat promotion) I take it in stride. I take it as a compliment because there is something about us that makes you lash out. You can’t stand that you don’t look like us or have the will power to lose weight and get healthy, so you insult us. Have at it. Anytime you insult me for being a skinny bitch, just remember, you wouldn’t say that if you were thin.

  • bananasmoothie

    I was one of the skinniest girls in school. Partly due to genetics. Partly due to not having enough food in our house. I was made fun of on a daily basis. The girls who were considered beautiful (cheerleaders, homecoming queens) were never skinny. Not obese, but not skinny. Just because Calvin Klein ads featured thin women does not mean the general public ever rewarded skinny women with any type of privledge. And no, I could never find clothes that fit in most stores.

  • Izanami Mikoto

    I was overweight until developing an eating disorder and my BMI dropped down to 16. Negative comments on your body weight, body type and eating habits, whether skinny or fat can both be very hurtful. And honestly I got much more invasive questions and comments when I was very thin. Even without an eating disorder, I know I’d feel harassed.

    I’m all for body positivity and body acceptance whatever your size but one of my only qualms is fat activism trying to call doctors fat-phobic, when in reality you need to accept that your severe edema is caused by the extra 150 pounds and you’re setting yourself up for the most common cause of death.

    Does being fat and/or unhealthy mean you shouldn’t be valued as a person? No. But should you value your health, and is that something to respect? Yes.

  • Rachel

    These privileges include, but are not limited to:

    The ability to find clothing in your size at the vast majority of retailers;

    The assumption that your body type is at the very least “normal,” and most often sexually desirable;

    The assumption that those who do find you sexually desirable are also normal, and not merely satisfying a fetish;

    The assumption that you are healthy and physically fit;

    The lack of character judgments (e.g. lazy, greedy, undisciplined) placed upon you for your body type.

    some fyi since you obviously are incapable of viewing life through different eyes, I give you a list of the privileges I’ve been given for having a slender frame(5’5″ 110lbs):

    I have an incredibly hard time finding clothes that fit. Bras are even harder. Size 2 is too tight in pants, but size 3 makes me look even thinner because they’re too baggy. My boobs are usually too small for shirts, giving them a funny fit.

    The assumption that I must be anorexic because I’m obviously too thin. That’s why random strangers and people I meet for the first time have no problem advising me to eat more, after all, they know more about me and my life than I do.

    The assumption that men who find me sexually attractive like “bony bitches” bones are for dogs right?

    The assumption that I am unhealthily skinny, like I said before, anorexic, emaciated, need to eat more, etc I already brought this up.

    The character judgments: I’m vain, a bitch, I’m a whore, I’m childlike and can’t take care of myself(because tiny people remind larger people of children), etc…

    I know this was written last year but I had to comment because these “privileges” you claim I have work both ways. I have been ridiculed and shamed my entire life for being so small, and now I’m being told to shut up and deal with it, because only fat women are allowed to have weight issues. Your assumptions are wrong and I really hope by this time your opinion has changed to accept that all women face body image issues and that we need to stand together and love our bodies rather than divide and argue over whose problems are worse.

  • Matt

    So it’s a privilege to be made fun of everyday for being skinny to the point where self esteem no longer exists and day to day life is a constant cycle of fear and self loathing. That’s a privilege? With the rise of eating disorders in the media people automatically assume skinny people have disorders, tell us to eat cheeseburgers, and expect us to not lash back and to accept it. This is privilege? I hope since writing this article last year you have reconsidered your stance on the topic because skinny shaming and fat shaming are one and the same. Equal. They lead to the same feelings whether skinny or fat.

  • Tesla Marline Danellen Reeves

    Wow… I hope you don’t say you all for “everyone is beautiful” or “equality” because this is a contradicting, twisted, and rude message… how can you say white people and skinny women are “privileged” wtf! You are doing no different than the topic you are talking about! No type is better than one other!!! And the only reason people think so is because people use their opinions to speak for everyone else! Like someone saying ” everyone loves pizza!! Its the best!” Well guess what not everyone loves pizza… and for you to say that fat shaming it worse than skinny shaming is wrong.. though I get what your trying to tell, your wrong. Obviously everyone knows about fat shaming and know how much it happens, yet you say it goes unnoticed… I’ve been skinny shamed my whole life, but because I supposedly have a “privilege” I have no reason to complain and it isn’t considered shaming… pretty much what I’m saying it the way people think is that a skinny girl should take it as a compliment when someone grabs your wrist and says ” your so skinny, do you eat?? .” Just because we are skinny???… that’s like grabbing a big girls belly and saying “your so fat, how much do you eat???” But it is wrong and gets noticed when its said to a big girl… nobody bats an eye when skinny shaming happens! I’m all for everyone is beautiful and blah blah blah but people need to stop putting other people down to feel good about themselves..but if your a big girl and have been fat shamed your whole life then you go and hate on some skinny girls, that makes it worse THAT is when skinny shaming is worse than fat shaming because if you know what it feels like to be body shamed, why the fuck would you go and do it to someone else?? It needs to stop ALL SHAMING!!!

  • em

    Skinny shaming is not equal to fat shaming…. for now. Throughout the history in many different cultures there have been times when being plump was considered ideal and being skinny was shameful and other times when being skinny was visually appealing and being plump is called fat, etc. That is, sense of beauty changes all the time. Just a decade ago being super duper skinny was more praised and now more people say that is not good and they say they want to be healthily skinny. If we give an ok to skinny shaming just because it is not equal to fat shaming right now, sooner or later we will have created a culture in which being skinny, even if natutally and healthily skinny, is shameful. Culture is something people create over time. And as people change gradually, so does our culture and society. It starts from a small thing. We cannot justify any shaming at any time.

  • Mark

    Love all the mental gymnastics you go through to try to argue that there’s no such thing as skinny shaming. What Nicki Minaj said in her song is a form of body shaming. Period. And trying to sweep it under the rug and hand wave it away makes you just as pathetic as she is.

  • http://www.mymanandme03.wordpress.com AquariusMoon

    If you want to trivialise skinny shaming then know this. None of the body positive movement has the right to ask skinny women to be allies. Our rights aren’t respected, we aren’t respected. Your views and cause are wholly self-indulgent and self-centred and purely focused on fat acceptance.

    Thank goodness I’m confident enough never to be shamed into eating a burger or more than what I’m used to. Thank goodness I can see through the agenda of the body positive.

    I’ll revel in my thin privilege because it was earned. Whilst I won’t deliberately torment the overweight, I’ll not take up their cause until they acknowledge the pain those who’re skinny shamed and who have body issues feel. In fact, I’ll call you guys out to any skinny woman for undermining the hurt caused to these victims and ask them if helping you guys with your cause is worth it

  • donalda

    This isn’t necessarily morbidly obese verses height/weight proportionate. Women who are curvaceous, T&A, hour-glass shaped vs. boyish and athletic are being called fat! Having a curvy, womanly body is NOT fat. Jennifer Lawrence, Serena Williams, Kim Kardashian and formerly Marilyn Monroe are NOT FAT. That’s the kind of *ish Nicki Minaj is railing against.

  • Skyeo

    Has anyone else who is naturally skinny gotten the degrading label of “anorexic” or had someone sneer about how you “probably shove your fingers down your throat after a meal”? That is why fat shaming and skinny shaming ARE on the same level. To insinuate somebody has a severe mental issue based on their weight is just as bad as assuming someone is simply “lazy” or gluttonous for being heavier. I have heard random strangers point at me and imply that they would look that disgusting if they didn’t eat too. It feels just as bad, it is just as bad, and it’s extremely ignorant to say otherwise.

  • Joli

    My older sister used to call me “toothpick” and “popsickle stick” legs, on our walk to school, in front of her friends. It was skinny shaming. As an adult, I have curves, and a belly. I am not plus size, but I have body dysmporphia and feel like I am a large size. I am often ashamed of my curves and my inclination is to wear a lot of unflattering loosefitting clothing, but I’m getting better. Fat shaming and critical Women’s beauty standards have been harmful to me as someone who is technically a skinny person. In puberty and adulthood I grew curves and developed fat in new places, and I was ashamed of it.
    Now, it is empowering and healing for me to see so many different body types and skin colors in television, movies, in photography, and in blogs. I agree that skinny women, even ones with body dysmorphia like me, do have somewhere in the back of their minds a knowledge that we are able avoid a certain scrutiny that larger people don’t always have. It’s empowering for me as a skinny woman to see larger people embracing their size and looking so confident, and with killer style. I wish I had been able to see this in my teen years because I doubt I would have this body dysmorpia.

  • jess

    lol forgetting that bigger women are praised in some parts of Africa because it shows signs of wealth. My family has always force fed me because I’m naturally skinny and to them that was ugly.

  • M_Young

    “Being skinny is a form of privilege, in the same way that being white, wealthy, heterosexual, cisgendered, or able-bodied is a form of privilege. ”

    Whites are not privileged. White privilege is a myth.

  • Luna

    Skinny shaming does not have to be equal to fat shaming. It is STILL wrong. Thick girls always think it’s okay to empower themselves at the expense of insulting skinny girls. If you have to make other people feel bad about themselves to lift yourself up, you have a problem.