The myth of skinny-shaming


As Nicki Minaj’s highest charting single ever, “Anaconda” has elicited a lot of controversy since its release. While the most prominent discussion seems to center around its salacious music video, which has garnered over 100 million views on YouTube—where comments oscillate between denouncing the video as “pornographic” or “disgusting” and heralding it as a sex-positive black-feminist masterpiece—what I find to be the most interesting argument against “Anaconda” is the accusation that Minaj is promoting an unhealthy body image. Indeed, opponents of the song have criticized its lyrics for “skinny-shaming,” contending that Minaj’s call to “fuck the skinny bitches” marginalizes thin women in the same way that larger women are marginalized. Here’s the fault with that argument: while instances of “skinny-shaming” may seem like as much of a problem as fat-shaming—and may very well be just as hurtful—the two phenomena are neither comparable nor equal, because the fact of the matter is that we live in a society that systematically and structurally privileges those who are thin and marginalizes those who are not.

It wasn’t until last weekend that I first heard the term “skinny-shaming.” I was hanging out in a friend’s common room listening to music when “Anaconda” began playing. About 3 minutes into the song, there’s a section where Nicki raps, “Where my fat ass big bitches in the club?/Fuck the skinny bitches/Fuck the skinny bitches in the club/I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the mother fucking club, fuck you if you skinny bitches.”

When I mentioned afterwards that I respected Nicki for saying that, to my surprise, my friend replied, “What? But like, skinny-shaming’s also a thing, which is just as shitty.”

“Skinny-shaming,” as I later learned, is the term that’s been coined to describe the act of degrading or insulting someone for being thin. It’s often mentioned in the broader context of body-shaming and women’s body image and is typically offered as a type of other-side-of-the-same-coin alternative to fat-shaming. Often, it’s heralded as more important than fat-shaming, because fat-shaming gets more attention in the media and general discourse. And with the growing discussion surrounding beauty standards, the media, and “real women,” this notion of skinny-shaming is one that’s received a lot of attention lately.

The core of the skinny-shaming argument can be best be summed up by the top comment on Meghan Trainor’s YouTube video for “All About That Bass”—another song that’s proven controversial recently for Trainor’s claim that she’s “bringing booty back” and planning to “tell them skinny bitches that.” The comment reads:

“What happened to everyone is beautiful?! Calling someone a skinny bitch is the same as calling someone a fat bitch. I bet if someone made a song calling someone a fat bitch everyone would hate that person. We’re all beautiful, no matter what size and we need to stop calling each other names or saying things like ‘only curvy girls are real women’ or ‘that girl would be pretty if she wasn’t fat.’ We are all BEAUTIFUL!!”

The basic premise of this argument, my friend’s argument, and all other arguments against “skinny-shaming” is this: skinny-shaming, like fat-shaming, is a form of body-shaming, so it is just as hurtful, dangerous, and problematic. Therefore, skinny-shaming should be discussed, analyzed, and combatted just as seriously as fat-shaming. Basically, “skinny-shaming’s a thing, and it’s just as shitty.”

But not all body-shaming is created equal. Skinny-shaming is absolutely not comparable to fat-shaming, nor should the two issues be weighted equally. And by pairing Trainor’s or Minaj’s or any other person’s individual criticism of “skinny bitches” with the systemic and cultural condemnation of all those who are not “skinny bitches” is to completely ignore the hierarchy of power associated with body-type and weight in modern American culture.

Being skinny is a form of privilege, in the same way that being white, wealthy, heterosexual, cisgendered, or able-bodied is a form of privilege. There are a series of societal benefits and advantages that come with being skinny, and these benefits serve to marginalize those who do not fit into a very narrowly defined notion of the acceptable female body type. These privileges include, but are not limited to:

The ability to find clothing in your size at the vast majority of retailers;

The assumption that your body type is at the very least “normal,” and most often sexually desirable;

The assumption that those who do find you sexually desirable are also normal, and not merely satisfying a fetish;

The assumption that you are healthy and physically fit;

The lack of character judgments (e.g. lazy, greedy, undisciplined) placed upon you for your body type.

These are all privileges enjoyed by those who are skinny, and these privileges are important to recognize when analyzing what exactly body-shaming means, who it affects, and how it affects them. Fat-shaming represents a larger social system of oppression. Skinny-shaming is an individual insult or criticism against those who are already in a position of power. Fat-shaming is nearly constant, ubiquitous, and often unacknowledged. Skinny-shaming happens sometimes. Yes, fat-shaming and skinny-shaming are both forms of body-shaming. No, they are not equal.

What differentiates individual instances of prejudice from large-scale discrimination is the system of power inherent in the latter. In “Developing a New Perspective on Race,” Pat Bidol defined racism as “Power + Prejudice”—I think this is true for all “-isms.” What transforms individual instances of prejudice into larger systems of discrimination is the existence of a power disparity. To be discriminated against is to be constantly placed in a vulnerable position in society—it is to be told, explicitly and tacitly, that you are unworthy and thus deserve less.

This is why even using the term “skinny-shaming” is dangerous; drawing the parallel between a system of oppression and individual grievances serves to conceal the ways in which body-size privileges or marginalizes certain groups. In the same way that affirmative action does not constitute reverse racism, or a concerted effort to recruit women in the workplace does not constitute reverse sexism, an angry comment towards skinny people does not constitute reverse fat-shaming (i.e. skinny-shaming). Being in a position of power means that while you may encounter individual instances of prejudice, you will never be subjected to a system of prejudice. Thus being told “fuck you” by Nicki Minaj is not “skinny-shaming,” but rather an instance of skinny-prejudice.

To be clear, by no means am I approving of or endorsing skinny-prejudice; insulting someone for their body-type—regardless of privileged status—is unproductive and hurtful. What I am saying is that comments like “fuck you if you skinny, bitch” have a context in which they must be considered. In a world in which a national retailer (ahem, Brandy Melville) labels size small clothing “one size fits most,” the dieting industry brings in $20 billion in revenue per year, the media routinely and publicly criticize celebrities for weight gain and herald Jennifer Lawrence as a “curvy woman,” non-skinny women are given very few avenues for attacking and criticizing the culture of oppression to which they are subjected. Add to that the history of patriarchy associated with female weight management, and it becomes clear that insults against those who are skinny are not an attack, but rather a response to a much broader issue.

So when Nicki Minaj says “fuck the skinny bitches” she’s not personally attacking women who receive skinny privilege, but rather combatting the system that gives it to them. She’s publicly recognizing the power dynamic that surrounds the female body, and she’s attempting to disrupt the dominant narrative that allows this dynamic to exist.

Yes, I understand “fuck the skinny bitches” might hurt your feelings, but no, this one instance of skinny-prejudice is not comparable to the pervasive culture of fat-shaming we live in. And by ignoring the fact that there is a difference, we deny the fact that this system of privilege and oppression continues to exist.


Illustration by Julia Kittle-Kamp

  • Thomas

    Oh so me being ill which caused me to lose a ridiculous amount of weight is a privilege now? I dropped from being 75 kilos (about 165 pounds) to 55 kilos (again about 120 pounds) in three months. Tell e how that is a god damn privilege.

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  • Jen

    Skinny-shaming is comparable to fat-shaming because it is the *exact same thing* – it is the act of bullying; of attempting to try & feel better by making someone else feel bad via the use of offensive names, offensive behaviour, projecting anger on to a scapegoat, amongst similar harassment; dumping your internal bad energy on to someone else, instead of resolving it within yourself. The only answer for a better world for all is to identify and seek to stop all forms of bullying. Stop dumping bad energy on to others. Bullying Person B because Person A bullied you is not the road to a better world. Bullying is bullying. Just stop it.

  • Erika Allen

    The idea of skinny shaming, real phenomenon or not, still does one thing– it points out the hypocrisy of the fat acceptance crowd. If your talking points are all about loving you for you, and that all women are beautiful despite their size, you had better stick to that narrative. Building your confidence up while simultaneously tearing another’s down doesn’t help your case.

  • Kitty

    I have to say that skinny people do have negative character traits associated with them. They’re often considered vain, shallow, or fake or portrayed to be vapid, bitchy, or catty. We all have negative traits placed on us due to stereotyping, regardless of which groups we fall into. It happens with weight, race, age, and gender, among many other things.

  • Sam Stubbs

    This is just inane drivel. Complete and utter garbage. I sincerely hope this is just a troll post… “Skinny-privilege” …what? I think “privilege” has just become a word people use to excuse reverse-prejudice… “Skinny-shaming” isn’t new, nor are “skinny” people somehow privileged. I’m sorry but I just don’t see it. When was the last time you heard a hit popular song that actually decried heavy people in the same way these songs rail on skinny people? However, decrying skinny people happens all the time in this culture. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “Real women have curves” being thrown around. Have you honestly ever heard anyone recently say “Real women are flat?” Have you ever heard a guy talk about how attractive stick thin girls are?

    Look, I’m not saying that fat-shaming doesn’t happen. I’m not saying that ads don’t photoshop models to unrealistic expectations. It happens. But the people who are shaming (on either side) are usually the ones who are self conscious themselves.

    My wife is a size 0, and has been under 100 lbs her whole life, (except when pregnant) and it’s not from a lack of eating or appetite. And yet, all her life she’s been called “anorexic” Girl’s have made fun of her for being “flat,” or calling her an “ironing board.” She’s always felt uncomfortable in locker rooms. Once person actually came up to her while she was working, and told her that he hated her, because she was skinny, and that looking at her made him feel bad about himself. (Again, it’s always the ones who feel bad about themselves that shame others.) These things stick, and they have been hurtful to her. Of course she’s pretty strong, and has taken most of it in stride. However, It still has taken years for me to finally convince her that she is completely beautiful just the way it is, and that she doesn’t need to be “curvier” for me or anyone.

    So long story short. I don’t buy this “privilege” crap the author is trying to sell. Body-shaming happens to everyone. And just because you’ve been hurt in the past doesn’t give you the right to hurt others. Period. That’s all this discussion need be about. Dismissing hurtful words with petty and nonsensical accusations about “privilege” have no place among sensible, thinking adults.

  • eleanor

    I understand what the author is attempting to say in their argument, and while everything is valid, it seems a bit ignorant, because the “skinny privilege” privileges listed in this article are not always true, at least, not to me. I am what would be described as a very thin person and I have struggled with keeping up my weight since I was little. On a daily basis, even my friends tell me to go eat a cheeseburger, the majority of people like to make snap judgments about my weight and call me anorexic, and it is extremely rare to find perfectly fitting clothes because just because you are thin does in no way mean that you don’t have short/long legs, or wide hips, etc, so jeans and such may be incredibly hard to find, as they are for me. And skinny shaming is completely present in the media, people like Kate Middleton get shamed for looking “scarily thin” and such. It is horrible. But then again, fat shaming is equally disgusting. All of this body obsession, all of this body shaming, is horrific. So I do think that they are equally terrible.

  • Kylan

    Who gives a shit who’s feelings are hurt?? I feel like I’m taking crazy pills! When did it become ok for the collective health of the US population become a back seat issue to some fat fucks who are insecure about their weight, getting their feelings hurt because they are too fucking fat to fit into a goddamn airline seat, and then being to much of a lazy pile of shit to do something about it, and then trying to convince other people that it’s ok and that they should be this way too?! That’s like saying “I’m addicted to meth, and my life sucks, so everyone else should be addicted to meth!” God. Fucking. Damnit.